Monday, November 10, 2008

Blogging Blues

Hi friends. We are alive... just incase you have been wondering. I've just had the blogging blues lately. I wish we would have been doing lots of fun stuff like we did last time I took a blog break, but we haven't. So I just thought I'd let you all know we are still here and I am excited to get all caught up on everybody's happenings. It might take a while for me to catch up reading all your posts, so be patient with me cause I want to leave comments for everyone.

Wednesday, October 15, 2008


I've decided to post a semi-retraction to my disclaimer note at the bottom of my last post. I'm getting the feeling I came across as a little neurotic and some what scary. Plus, Ben read it and told me I was a physco and that he would never leave me a comment on a post like that. So I am apologizing to my readers and commenter's for being harsh and thank them all for leaving comments despite my raging antics. I have found all of the comments to be very helpful and very appropriate. I may have been writing in pre-defence based off of the 3 or 4 different forums I read prior to making my plea for help. Each mommy in distress got ripped apart for not being scheduled or for having routines. All of them got advice from others talking about how well their much younger babies slept and how they achieved that. Which isn't really that helpful seeing how the distressed mommies baby was sleeping just fine at the advice giving mommies babies age. (did that make sense?) Anyways, I was rather put off by the forums I read and thought I would seek advice from people who actually know what they are talking about. Which you all do, I might add. I feel so much better having read all of your wise advice. But I did want to make sure this didn't turn into one of those lame-o blame-o forums, thus the disclaimer. I think I was hoping it would come across a little more humorously honest than anything. But don't worry, Ben reassured me that it didn't! So there is my official retraction. I do hope no one was terribly offended and I hope that new readers will still leave any advice they have for me. Thanks again to all of the brave commenter's who left such wonderful and appropriate advice!

Tuesday, October 14, 2008


So I'm looking for a bit of advice again from you wiser more experienced mothers. My darling little Kai is causing me some serious heartburn lately.

Kai is a great sleeper, she always has been. This is something I pride myself in...greatly. (toot, toot!-i'm tooting my own horn here:)) Now, I DO mean to brag when I tell you this. She has slept through the night, 12 hours a night, in her own bed, with no bottle or sippy cup as a prop, falling asleep on her own, since she was 6 weeks old. She has always been a great napper too. Extending her naps to the maximum length at each stage of napping(3 a days, two a days, down to one a day). I've always been able to count on her 3hour nap everyday since she dropped to one a days. This brings us to my current predicament.

The last week or so she has been getting continually harder and harder to put down. Enter... heartburn. I'm not ready for her to be giving up her naps yet. I need them just as much as I think she needs them. I feel like she is just too young not to be napping. She is only 2 and 5months. Isn't this early to be done napping? Now, she doesn't fight me on the subject at all either, she goes willingly into bed. She even stays in her room. She just rips out every article of clothing from her dresser, everything out of her closet, and every last book from her bookshelf. She stays quiet the whole time and sings to her little plush Grover.

What do you think I should do? Should I just be happy that she stays in her room and quietly plays, or does she still need to nap? She usually doesn't have melt downs the days she just refuses to sleep, she does get a little sensitive and extra whiny though. I've tried a mirage of techniques the last week to try to get her to sleep, non of which seem to be terribly effective.
I've laid down by her a few times until she fell asleep (which is a brand new experience for us), but I'm not too keen on her being dependent on me to fall asleep. Plus, with 2 rug rats who has time to do that for 15min. everyday? I've gently taken away books, Grover, and her favorite blankie all in hopes of blackmailing her to sleep. That approach failed. I've tried making a game out of it where her bed is the boat and the carpet is the shark infested water. She like sharks. That technique failed too.

So I am looking for some help. When do most kids give up naps and is there anything I can do to get Kai NOT to give up hers yet? Is this just a quirky phase? Am I being too selfish wanting her to nap and just give up the thought of my 3 hour break each day and just count my lucky stars that she was such a good sleeper for 2 1/2 years? Please help me.

*NOTE: I researched this topic on google and came across several forums with similar problems as my own. I found the advice given rather irritating and unhelpful in most cases. The mommy seeking advice was usually a mother of a 2 1/2 year old or older. Most of the advice was along the lines of "My 20 month old is a great sleeper and this is what I do", or "Maybe you should try a routine or a schedule". Please keep in mind as you leave comments (and please don't let this disclaimer discourage you from leaving one, I truly need your advice) that my child is NOT a 20 month old, or 18, or 12 months. She is 28 months and up until 27 months she slept perfectly. So if your advice is coming from your experience from your child younger than 27months, I'm NOT interested.(that doesn't mean if your child/ren is under 27 months, your comment is unwelcome. it just better be something good you read in a book or heard from a friend or talk radio or something). Also, I am a sudo schedualist. I am organized and routine oriented. So I don't want to hear how I need to get her on a schedule or routine so she knows what to expect or so her internal sleeping clock aligns with her nap time. I am the queen of schedules and routine and predictability. If anyone has read Babywise, I am a Babywise mommy and I am familiar with it's methods. So if you are likewise a Babywise mommy or daddy, I understand those methods fully. So don't be afraid to remind me of something I'm possibly missing in it's concepts. If you are not Babywise oriented, I still need and value your thoughts and opinions. OK... I'm done. Sorry I'm so wordy. I leave you with a picture of the good old days...

Saturday, October 11, 2008

Picture and Crazy 8 Tag!

Picture Tag:
I was tagged by Spackman...

Rule: 4th photo file on your computer, 4th picture in that file.Family ski day at Basin...
These are my bro in law's: Skyler and Micah ( i think). Bud is on the left and Micah (if that is in fact Micah, it could be Newell, or maybe Ben, or maybe it's Lott, oh ...I can't tell) is on the right.

I tag: YOU. If you are reading this tag, then you are it. If you don't play, you will be in BIG BIG trouble. I'm serious.

Crazy Eights!
I was tagged by Sid...

8 TV Shows I Love To Watch:
(i don't actually watch tv hardly ever, so this one was hard. most of these are pretty old and i don't think they make most of em any more)
1. scrubs
2. king of queen's
3. friends
4. that 70's show
5. cosby show
7. who's line is it anyway
8. America's funniest videos

8 Things that happened Yesterday:
1. i finally put up my halloween decorations
2. i got a migraine
3. went to Iggi's for dinner
4. kai threw up on me:(
5. i took a shower twice (no thanks to kai)
6. i made blt's for lunch
7. watched iron man
8. ran into my sister at Iggi's

8 Favorite Places To Eat:
1. tepanyaki
2. chuck-o-rama
3. old grist mill
4. ruth's chris
5. lions den
6. chick-fill-a
7. applebees
8. big jim's (he has good blt's)

8 Things I'm Looking Forward To:
1. ben graduating with his MBA
2. being DONE having kids
3. climbing again (when our kids move out)
4. thanksgiving in Bear Lake
5. making a real snowman with Kai
6. ski season (me and Kai will be learning how this year)
7. buying furniture and decorations one day
8. having my hair all one length

8 Things On My Wish List:
1. new couch
2. new bed spread
3. decorations for my house
4. nikon D90
5. piano
6. yard
7. trampoline
8. bar stools

8 People I Tag:
1. every
2. one
3. who
4. reads
5. this
6. HAS
7. to
8. play
or else...(duhn, duhn, duhn)

Monday, October 6, 2008

Powder Mtn.

For the last one million years, my in-laws go up to Powder Mountain (where they were pretty much all born and raised) each fall to re-visit the site of the famous Marsden Family Tree. This tree has each family member's name carved into it and the year they were born. It started with Newell and Gay (my father and mother in law) when they got married and they added each child's name to it as they joined the family. Ben and I started our own tree when we got married in 2003, and have continued on in the tradition as we visit it each year and add our kids to it as they join the family. Our first tree didn't actually withstand the winds of time and fell over the 2nd year we went to visit it. It is still up there resting in peace as it proudly displays our names...Here we are all bundled up before heading up... Here is the Ben and Ash Tree (2nd version) with the addition of Kai and Jude... Family photo...

Kai was really excited to make a snowman. There wasn't a whole lot of snow to facilitate this request, but we did the best we could...I love this tradition, it's so reflective of the Marsden way. Mountains and nature, outdoors and skiing, family and unity. It was so beautiful up there and we had a great time!

These are just more funny random pictures of us...
Kai was making 'snowmen' with cotton balls and hot dogs. She is very creative (and obsessed with snowmen I guess)...

Do you think these two look alike?
Kai doing " name is Chubby" (it's hilarious, I'll have to get it on video and post it sometime)...
Jude loves wearing my hat (the little drooley face)...
Kai wanted to take my picture, so here are some shots of me. I think she has a real talent for this photography stuff...
My favorite one is "Ode to my Mommy the Pillow". Silly silly:)

Thursday, October 2, 2008


It doesn't get any cuter than this...
(maybe turn off the sound on my playlist at the bottom of the screen so you can hear Jude's sweet little giggle)

Thursday, September 25, 2008

So there I was...

So this year for my birthday (it was on the 19th of Sept. for all those of you who forgot...thanks alot ya weenies...j/k, I nearly forgot it myself. At this age I feel lucky if I remember to brush my teeth...speaking of which...I'll be right back... ) anyhow, I got a very special gift from my wonderful hubby. It's really a cute story...ready? So there I was...

Home alone on a Thursday night, feeling rather lonely and deserted, I had just sat down to unwind from a monotonous day of breast feeding, potty training, cleaning, cooking, coloring, chasing a screaming 2 year old around, force feeding rice cereal down an uncooperative 5month old's esophagus, and getting ready to eat an entire bowl of popcorn by myself. I was just wondering why I hadn't heard from my hubby yet, when suddenly... the phone rang.

"Finally, jeez its 9:00 at night, what took him so long to call?" I wondered to myself. Ben had spent the last two nights in DC, one of my most favorite places on earth, at some work conference. Poor thing got stuck there for two days of classes, and in the evenings when he got off, eating at Ruth's Chris on perdium and going to the movies with all his buddies.

Anyways, it was Ben on the line, calling to tell me all about his grueling day of class and the tasty steak dinner he enjoyed and the awesome movie he got to go see. Feeling rather sorry for myself for being stuck at home while he got to go out and play, I told him about my day (which never is much different from every other day) while I was peeking out the peek hole in our front door. I was watching some weird utility truck that had parked just outside or house with some dizzying flashing orange light on top. I was keeping a close watch out on the worker guy who had gotten out of the truck and was standing nearly in our front yard holding up some crazy alien beaconing device. I was making sure he didn't lunge towards our solid oak front door and break it in with one swift karate chop to the dead bolt to try and rape and pillage me and kidnap my kids and burgle and vandalize us. (he didn't by the way... pillage us...whatever that means)

The truck drove off and I breathed a sigh of relief and headed to the couch to eat my gargantuan sized bowl of popcorn and continue chatting with my hubby. He started asking me what we had been doing all day and what I wanted for my birthday the next day. I told him all I really wanted was for him to come home and be with me. I missed him so much. He said he missed us and he wished he could be home with us too. Then he started telling me what metro stops he was getting off and on and how he was now walking towards his hotel. Having spent six weeks there last year, I knew well all the in's and outs of DC. I was remembering all the metro stops, and the street names, and all the wonderful sights and smells of the District. I was picturing in my mind exactly where he was and what he was probably seeing when suddenly, I heard a knock at the door. My heart skipped a beat and I felt my guts turn into jello.
"Yikes!" I thought to myself, "The utility worker is back to rape and pillage me!"
" What the heck?" I said to Ben. "Somebody just knocked on the door."

"This late?" Ben asked.

"What should I do?" I whispered to Ben over the phone.

"Go look out the peek hole and see who it is," he said.

I crept over to the door, super sleuth style, so as not to be detected by my attacker. I peeked out the peek hole and could see only the outline of the creepo burglar waiting patiently for me to invite him in and kindly show him where all our valuables were hidden. (Not that we actually have any valuables... besides our kids of coarse. That is the truth too, just in case you are a creepo burglar reading this...don't waste your time burgling us, it would be to no avail.)

"I can't see who it is, it's too dark," I whispered into the phone. "Should I turn the light on?"

"Ya, turn in on so you can see who it is," Ben encouraged.

"But then he'll know somebody is home," I said questioning his resolve to protect his wife and children.

"Just turn in on," he said in a tone that reassured me that I was being a little ridiculous.

"O.k.," I hesitated. Then I decided it would be better to see the villain's face first, in case I survived the attack , so as to make it easier to identify him in the line up down at the station after all was said and done. I flipped on the light and to my delightful surprise, it was no attacker at all! If you haven't already guessed the ending... it was in fact Ben! Yaaay! Home one night early, here to help celebrate my birthday and fight off my attackers. Just what I wanted, spot on!

He is such a great husband, I love him so much. He is my very best friend and I love him more and more everyday. I hate every minute we're apart and I count down the seconds each day he's at work until he gets home. I never get sick of hanging out with him and I feel so lucky he is mine. Needless to say, we made the most out of the rest of the evening with some well needed lover and lover time ;);)(wink, wink) treats, and a movie. It was a great early birthday present and I couldn't have been more surprised.

Thursday, September 11, 2008

Carter Creek

As part of our party month last month, we took a super fun camping trip to the Uintah's to a sweet camp ground, Carter Creek. We get to use it through Ben's work. It has 6 or 7 little cabins and a few trailers that you can rent. It has a little playground, volleyball net, horseshoes and lots of fun little streams and beaver dams. We went up with some friends and stayed for a few nights. I'm going to post most of our pictures from this trip cause a lot of Ben's co-workers wanted to check out the camp ground for future reference.



The back room

The big room

The kitchen The outside of the cabins

Kai playing in a bucket

We really enjoy camping and this is the first time we have ever cabin camped. It is most definitely a different story in a cabin vs a tent. We learned there is a lot to say about 'convenience' especially when it comes to bringing children along. I have a feeling this won't be the last time we cabin camp!

The party's over...Booo:(

August was a big party month for us. Ben was out of school for the whole month, so we had every spare minute we could find planned out. No time for blogs or emails or anything extra. We took weekend trips and day hikes and short days off of work to go and play. We spent some time priming our garage and working on some other projects too. It was so fun. We always have the best time together with our little family. We have lots of pictures... so be prepared. We'll be short and sweet with the captions so you don't have to spend five hours reading our blog. Here it goes...
After Park City Fun in the tub

Family Hike






Consumation Rock (the name speaks for itself:))

These guys forgot their skins

Ben added the third band to my ring











Black widows

We had 3 on the front porch in one night

We've killed 4 others since (well Ben, not me)


Just because they're cute!

Holding hands in the car

We had lots and lots of fun and we are bummed out school started again. Soon enough though, Ben will be done and then we can spend all our time playing together. We can't wait.