Wednesday, October 15, 2008


I've decided to post a semi-retraction to my disclaimer note at the bottom of my last post. I'm getting the feeling I came across as a little neurotic and some what scary. Plus, Ben read it and told me I was a physco and that he would never leave me a comment on a post like that. So I am apologizing to my readers and commenter's for being harsh and thank them all for leaving comments despite my raging antics. I have found all of the comments to be very helpful and very appropriate. I may have been writing in pre-defence based off of the 3 or 4 different forums I read prior to making my plea for help. Each mommy in distress got ripped apart for not being scheduled or for having routines. All of them got advice from others talking about how well their much younger babies slept and how they achieved that. Which isn't really that helpful seeing how the distressed mommies baby was sleeping just fine at the advice giving mommies babies age. (did that make sense?) Anyways, I was rather put off by the forums I read and thought I would seek advice from people who actually know what they are talking about. Which you all do, I might add. I feel so much better having read all of your wise advice. But I did want to make sure this didn't turn into one of those lame-o blame-o forums, thus the disclaimer. I think I was hoping it would come across a little more humorously honest than anything. But don't worry, Ben reassured me that it didn't! So there is my official retraction. I do hope no one was terribly offended and I hope that new readers will still leave any advice they have for me. Thanks again to all of the brave commenter's who left such wonderful and appropriate advice!

Tuesday, October 14, 2008


So I'm looking for a bit of advice again from you wiser more experienced mothers. My darling little Kai is causing me some serious heartburn lately.

Kai is a great sleeper, she always has been. This is something I pride myself in...greatly. (toot, toot!-i'm tooting my own horn here:)) Now, I DO mean to brag when I tell you this. She has slept through the night, 12 hours a night, in her own bed, with no bottle or sippy cup as a prop, falling asleep on her own, since she was 6 weeks old. She has always been a great napper too. Extending her naps to the maximum length at each stage of napping(3 a days, two a days, down to one a day). I've always been able to count on her 3hour nap everyday since she dropped to one a days. This brings us to my current predicament.

The last week or so she has been getting continually harder and harder to put down. Enter... heartburn. I'm not ready for her to be giving up her naps yet. I need them just as much as I think she needs them. I feel like she is just too young not to be napping. She is only 2 and 5months. Isn't this early to be done napping? Now, she doesn't fight me on the subject at all either, she goes willingly into bed. She even stays in her room. She just rips out every article of clothing from her dresser, everything out of her closet, and every last book from her bookshelf. She stays quiet the whole time and sings to her little plush Grover.

What do you think I should do? Should I just be happy that she stays in her room and quietly plays, or does she still need to nap? She usually doesn't have melt downs the days she just refuses to sleep, she does get a little sensitive and extra whiny though. I've tried a mirage of techniques the last week to try to get her to sleep, non of which seem to be terribly effective.
I've laid down by her a few times until she fell asleep (which is a brand new experience for us), but I'm not too keen on her being dependent on me to fall asleep. Plus, with 2 rug rats who has time to do that for 15min. everyday? I've gently taken away books, Grover, and her favorite blankie all in hopes of blackmailing her to sleep. That approach failed. I've tried making a game out of it where her bed is the boat and the carpet is the shark infested water. She like sharks. That technique failed too.

So I am looking for some help. When do most kids give up naps and is there anything I can do to get Kai NOT to give up hers yet? Is this just a quirky phase? Am I being too selfish wanting her to nap and just give up the thought of my 3 hour break each day and just count my lucky stars that she was such a good sleeper for 2 1/2 years? Please help me.

*NOTE: I researched this topic on google and came across several forums with similar problems as my own. I found the advice given rather irritating and unhelpful in most cases. The mommy seeking advice was usually a mother of a 2 1/2 year old or older. Most of the advice was along the lines of "My 20 month old is a great sleeper and this is what I do", or "Maybe you should try a routine or a schedule". Please keep in mind as you leave comments (and please don't let this disclaimer discourage you from leaving one, I truly need your advice) that my child is NOT a 20 month old, or 18, or 12 months. She is 28 months and up until 27 months she slept perfectly. So if your advice is coming from your experience from your child younger than 27months, I'm NOT interested.(that doesn't mean if your child/ren is under 27 months, your comment is unwelcome. it just better be something good you read in a book or heard from a friend or talk radio or something). Also, I am a sudo schedualist. I am organized and routine oriented. So I don't want to hear how I need to get her on a schedule or routine so she knows what to expect or so her internal sleeping clock aligns with her nap time. I am the queen of schedules and routine and predictability. If anyone has read Babywise, I am a Babywise mommy and I am familiar with it's methods. So if you are likewise a Babywise mommy or daddy, I understand those methods fully. So don't be afraid to remind me of something I'm possibly missing in it's concepts. If you are not Babywise oriented, I still need and value your thoughts and opinions. OK... I'm done. Sorry I'm so wordy. I leave you with a picture of the good old days...

Saturday, October 11, 2008

Picture and Crazy 8 Tag!

Picture Tag:
I was tagged by Spackman...

Rule: 4th photo file on your computer, 4th picture in that file.Family ski day at Basin...
These are my bro in law's: Skyler and Micah ( i think). Bud is on the left and Micah (if that is in fact Micah, it could be Newell, or maybe Ben, or maybe it's Lott, oh ...I can't tell) is on the right.

I tag: YOU. If you are reading this tag, then you are it. If you don't play, you will be in BIG BIG trouble. I'm serious.

Crazy Eights!
I was tagged by Sid...

8 TV Shows I Love To Watch:
(i don't actually watch tv hardly ever, so this one was hard. most of these are pretty old and i don't think they make most of em any more)
1. scrubs
2. king of queen's
3. friends
4. that 70's show
5. cosby show
7. who's line is it anyway
8. America's funniest videos

8 Things that happened Yesterday:
1. i finally put up my halloween decorations
2. i got a migraine
3. went to Iggi's for dinner
4. kai threw up on me:(
5. i took a shower twice (no thanks to kai)
6. i made blt's for lunch
7. watched iron man
8. ran into my sister at Iggi's

8 Favorite Places To Eat:
1. tepanyaki
2. chuck-o-rama
3. old grist mill
4. ruth's chris
5. lions den
6. chick-fill-a
7. applebees
8. big jim's (he has good blt's)

8 Things I'm Looking Forward To:
1. ben graduating with his MBA
2. being DONE having kids
3. climbing again (when our kids move out)
4. thanksgiving in Bear Lake
5. making a real snowman with Kai
6. ski season (me and Kai will be learning how this year)
7. buying furniture and decorations one day
8. having my hair all one length

8 Things On My Wish List:
1. new couch
2. new bed spread
3. decorations for my house
4. nikon D90
5. piano
6. yard
7. trampoline
8. bar stools

8 People I Tag:
1. every
2. one
3. who
4. reads
5. this
6. HAS
7. to
8. play
or else...(duhn, duhn, duhn)

Monday, October 6, 2008

Powder Mtn.

For the last one million years, my in-laws go up to Powder Mountain (where they were pretty much all born and raised) each fall to re-visit the site of the famous Marsden Family Tree. This tree has each family member's name carved into it and the year they were born. It started with Newell and Gay (my father and mother in law) when they got married and they added each child's name to it as they joined the family. Ben and I started our own tree when we got married in 2003, and have continued on in the tradition as we visit it each year and add our kids to it as they join the family. Our first tree didn't actually withstand the winds of time and fell over the 2nd year we went to visit it. It is still up there resting in peace as it proudly displays our names...Here we are all bundled up before heading up... Here is the Ben and Ash Tree (2nd version) with the addition of Kai and Jude... Family photo...

Kai was really excited to make a snowman. There wasn't a whole lot of snow to facilitate this request, but we did the best we could...I love this tradition, it's so reflective of the Marsden way. Mountains and nature, outdoors and skiing, family and unity. It was so beautiful up there and we had a great time!

These are just more funny random pictures of us...
Kai was making 'snowmen' with cotton balls and hot dogs. She is very creative (and obsessed with snowmen I guess)...

Do you think these two look alike?
Kai doing " name is Chubby" (it's hilarious, I'll have to get it on video and post it sometime)...
Jude loves wearing my hat (the little drooley face)...
Kai wanted to take my picture, so here are some shots of me. I think she has a real talent for this photography stuff...
My favorite one is "Ode to my Mommy the Pillow". Silly silly:)

Thursday, October 2, 2008


It doesn't get any cuter than this...
(maybe turn off the sound on my playlist at the bottom of the screen so you can hear Jude's sweet little giggle)