Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Valentines Day

Ben and I normally don't go all out for Valentines Day, it is just a little too commercial for us and seems a little hokey to spend too much money on each other. Sure we love each other and love the chance to let one another know it, but we usually don't use Valentines Day as an excuse to show it. Usually a simple card and a romantic dinner suffice. But this year was a little different for some reason. Maybe it had something to do with our conversation a few weeks earlier about rekindling the magic and not letting our relationship get put on the back burner, I'm not really sure, but we had a really fun time spoiling each other and spending some well needed mommy and daddy time together. It started out on Friday night with an evening of Sushi... and climbing...Two of our most favorite things to do together, and then on Saturday a day of skiing and just relaxing at home afterward and exchanging our heartfelt gifts.

It was super fun skiing together which came as a little bit of a surprise to us. This is only the third time I have ever skied and the first time since high school. Snowboarding is my winter sport of choice, but even that is a bit of a gamble for me. On a good day I could maybe pass as novice, but not on ski's, skiing is a much different story. For those of you who know Ben, you know he was born with ski's on and he loves it loves it loves it. It's kinda a requirement if you want to be born a Marsden. We've tried skiing together before and it just ends up in frustration for both parties. It's always the same thing, he's frustrated with me because I can't get my gloves on and I wont ski until they're on, me frustrated with him that he wont help me get the snow out of my gloves and wait for me to catch up. This time we just stayed on the Little Cat, which I'm sure was thrilling for him, but I loved it. Ben was totally patient and such a good teacher. And I might add... I totally owned that bunny hill by the end of the day. Oh ya, I have some pretty sick ski skills.

Warming up in the gondola...
After skiing we went home and relaxed and exchanged our gifts. Ben surprised me with this lamp post that I have been coveting ever since we built our house... It matches the sconces that we have outside and it is SO gorgeous. I love it so much. We will hopefully install it sometime this summer as we are planning on beginning to landscape then. He also got me a super cute shirt from Victoria's Secret. I got him some classy new brown shoes to wear to work and a new wedding ring. He lost his original ring down in Zions as he was going through Mystery Canyon without me. Serves him right for leaving me behind on that trip. The new one is just a sterling silver band, and cost but a fraction of what his original one was. Good thing neither of us are terribly sentimental. I know he loves me with or without his original wedding band. After we did our traditional gift exchange, Ben told me he had one more surprise for me. He sat me down at the computer and pulled up our blog and showed me his post. I was so touched at his thoughtfulness and his poem was so beautiful, it just brought me to tears to think of how much I love him and of how much I felt he loves me. The poem means even more to me as I read it over and over and realize all of the hidden meaning that was behind it all. It is full of symbolism's and memories of our life together. He is so incredible and I love him so much more now than I ever did. So that was our special Valentines Day this year and as always, I now leave you with some random funny pictures of our kids...

Kai likes to bury Jude with pillows...
Jude thinks it is hilarious...Ben and Kai snuggling out on the deck to watch the sunset...
Kai and Jude playing in their "hut"...

Friday, February 13, 2009

Perfect Beauty

This is Ben (I’m not nearly as witty and well-versed as my sweet wife), I’ve yet to post anything on the blog, it has been Ashley’s deal that she has very much enjoyed and done an awesome job with. I wanted to post a short love poem I wrote to Ash and tell her how much I love and appreciate her this Valentines day. Plus I think it’ll help “rekindle the magic.” ;-) It seems that the longer we are married the stronger our love grows for each other, yet the simple things that say I love you don’t happen as frequently as they should.


Perfect Beauty

The stars formed a rose the night we met
Just thinking of you made my palms sweat
A love was born that seemed to always be
I could have died that night and gone happily

Perfect beauty, I think describes it well
The way you look, is one reason why for you I fell
Your eyes like crystals, your smile so bright
You walk with confidence and talk so light
Such a perfect face and body too
These are some of the reasons why I love you

But love is more than just the way you look
Love is more than some words in a book
Love is the way I feel as I walk by your side
It’s a permanent smile as I hold you, my bride

Love is life’s journey we travel together
Love spans way beyond for worse or for better
Love is holding you as we cry
Love is kissing you as we say good-bye
Love is seeing you every day of my life
And waking up next to you, my beautiful wife

Love is forever and without end
It cannot be broken and does not pretend
My love for you will always be
Forever and ever throughout eternity


Ash, I love you! Happy Valentines Day.

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Self Portrait Day

I haven't been able to come up with any good self portraits lately, but Ben and I got braces the other day and I thought these would be some funny pictures to post. Both of us had braces when we were younger, so this is go around #2. Not much hope for our kids is there? Ben's retainer for his bottom teeth broke on his mission and it just wasn't feasible in the Dominican Republic to get a replacement. My two side teeth (the two on either side of the two big middle ones) just wont stay in place despite all my faithful retainer wearing. It's a pretty subtle difference, most people probably can't even notice, but it drives me crazy. I feel like a bucktooth beaver sometimes. Here are some before and after shots (well, not 'after' as in 'straight teeth after' but 'after' as in 'after the braces went on'...'after')...

This was a failed attempt at before shot/ self portrait in the mirror...In the car on the way to the ortho. This really isn't my best side...This shot is even more flattering than the above one. Take note of the side teeth that are slightly behind the two front teeth (they're not supposed to be behind them, they're supposed to be right by them, sorta like a relationship. Ya know, don't walk behind me, walk beside me, or somethin' like that)...Here are Ben's bottoms (teeth that is)...I didn't get any shots of Ben's chompers with his braces on, but here are mine...The best part of the whole deal is that I got my braces on for the first time when I was a senior in high school. I just found out that my ten year reunion is this summer. Sweet. I left high school in braces and now I get to return to high school in braces. That is so awesome. Oh well, you know what they say, "Once a nerd, always a nerd". Actually, there is a good chance they'll be off by then. Ben's on the other hand will take a little more time. But I'm pretty sure I'll still be a nerd even if I don't have braces at my reunion. It's a good thing I married such a stud and we happened to graduate the same year from the same school! Feeww, I guess I'll still have a little chance at redemption if I show up on Ben's arm!

And at least I have cute kids.

Jude thinks the saying is "Eat it AND wear it"...
The little cuddle bug after tub time...
Grampa P got in big trouble for showing Kai this new hiding place...It was too cute not to photograph though...The end.

Monday, February 2, 2009

The things they say...


One thing my mom is always saying is, "I wish I would have written down all the funny things you kids used to say, you were just so funny". I see a lot of you doing this on your blogs and the more funny things Kai say's, the more I wish I did it too. I'm beginning to forget some of the funny things she has been saying. I always mentally note to write it down somewhere, sometime, but never do. So I am going to learn from my mothers regrets and from those of you who do this and start writing down the things I don't want to forget from these precious years of little children in the home. One day I hope that my kids will get a kick out of reading over posts like this and I'm sure it will become a priceless keepsake to have.

Scene: Kai's room at bedtime. Mommy and Daddy kneeling down by Kai's bed and Kai trying to kneel and sit still for 30 seconds...
Dada says, "Kai, do you want to say the prayer tonight?"
Kai: "Sure Dada."
Dada: "Do you want me to help you?"
Kai: "No, I'm gonna do it all-by-my-self."
Kai: "Heavenly Father; thank Thee for this day, thank Thee for root beer, bless us, name, of Jesus Christ, Amen."

Scene: After tub time trying to dry Kai as she sits in her sink. I put a towel over Kai's head and held it closed under her chin. Kai looks in the mirror and gasps...
Kai: "Mom, Mom!!! I'm Jesus!!!"
Me (laughing): "You do kinda look like Jesus."
Kai: "No mom, I'm not Jesus, I'm Married." (she meant Marry, like the mother of Jesus, Marry. She thinks her name is Married.)

Scene: Bed time. All the lights are out. Kai gets out of her bed for the 3rd or 4th time and sits in the hall way and sings...
Me: "Kai, what are you doing out of bed?"
Kai: "I don't know, Mom."
I put her back in her bed for the one millionth time.
Me: "Kai, if you don't stay in your bed this time, I'm going to spank your bum."
Kai: "Spank-your-bum?! Don't spank-your-bum Mom!!!"
Me: Trying not to laugh.
Pretty sure she doesn't know what "spank your bum" means.
A few days later Gramma Gay came over to watch the kids and as she is putting Kai to bed Kai tells her,
"Gramma, my mom is going to spank-your-bum if I get out of bed"
We had to explain that one to Gramma when we got home.

Scene: Just another day. Folding clothes in my room. Kai comes in and watches me for a second...
Kai definitively: "Momma, you are trouble!"
Me: "What? I'm trouble?"
Kai: "You are IN trouble Mom, get in the corner. Right now."
Me laughing: "What did I do to get in trouble?"
Kai: "Just put your nose in the corner Mom. You are in trouble!!!"

Scene: Sacrament meeting. Just trying to maintain a shred of reverence and dignity. Kai is driving me crazy...
Me: I lightly bonk Kai on top of the head with my fist. (That sounds a lot harsher than it was. It was more in a funny, why are we at church, what else can I do at this point to get through to you sort of way)
Kai loudly as she scuzzes me: "DON'T HAMMER ME!!!"

Kai certainly keeps us laughing around here. I'm sure Jude will too one day. We just have to teach him to talk first. Anyways, these are just a few of the things she has said lately that I can remember. Hopefully I'll stay up to date with her "Funnies" from now on so I don't forget any more of them.